We are now by invitation only. Since we have had a smaller user base, we figured lets have a high quality smaller user base.
That person in the crowd that stands out
If you glance at them you are telling them that you are initially interested. Just like in real life, they can see that you are looking at them (they receive word that you are looking at them.). If you don't want to glance at them, then you just avert your eyes; you're never shown their image again, ever. They don't know that you passed them by and they will never be shown your image either. No more wasting your time with the same image over and over again that you know you're not interested in.
They see that you're looking... and keep looking.
The initial feeling is mutual. Like in real life, you've caught their eyes, and they didn't run screaming away, or look down at the floor and drop their keys, or run into traffic.
Minimal information is revealed, like you would if you just met someone.
Since you both like what you see, at least initially, you're able to see simple, non personal information. Height, relationship status (the assumption is that everyone is available but someone might be single, widowed, divorced, etc.), kids, whether they smoke, what their body type is.
This is the same sort of gallery that other sites make available to anyone. Pictures of you and your friends, your kids, etc are not something that should be shown publicly, but is something you might share with someone with whom you 'hit it off.'
Lets sit down and talk
Now that you've seen more of this person (a full body vs. a disembodied head), their basic stats, you can decide to actually strike up a real conversation with them via the built in chat system. Or, you can decide that this just isn't for you and avert your eyes at this point. Again, the two of you will be disconnected and never shown again.
A non-realtime back and forth
The two of you are now able to chat. They system provides a simple chat. Even at this point you can decide to sever the connection if the two of you just don't find any reason to continue. The site, in an effort to keep things moving, will give you a reminder when you have sent enough messages back and forth. You wanna meet or what?
As long as you haven't exchanged too much info (email, phone, etc.) you can sever your ties and move on fairly safely. Also, Only A Glance actually wants to know if you have met, so that it can remove that person from your options. Hey, you've already met in real life, no need to muck up things on line with them.
The whole point of a dating site
Now that you're ready to have your meeting, or interview or first date, you mark each other as having met. This tells the site to no longer show them (you would have contact info off line) and doesn't bother you with someone you have had an unsuccessful date with - this can be annoying or even painful. Ideally
A dating site can be a tremendous waste of time. It should not be treated as another social network. Only A Glance is a tool to help you get to this step, that's all. It doesn't 'match' anyone. it doesn't take credit for what millions of years of evolution and or a higher power has in store for you.
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A completely free dating site, to be used as a tool.
Only a Glance is a completely free dating site, to be used as a tool. That's it. It's the only site that understands that a dating site can't match anyone, all it can do is make the process of finding possible matches more efficient. So, it helps people find people, the same way that it happens in real life: one face at a time. No user names, no extra information, and if you aren't interested in someone it never shows you them again. Did we mention it is absolutely free. Yes, absolutely free. Even if Only A Glance doesn't help you find someone, the blog can help you to better use the other dating sites, with tips on profile pictures, dealing with their systems, etc.